Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

It’s been a while since I took the time to write about my journey.  I have been using my day-to-day experiences to bring my focus totally into the present moment where all of life is lived.  So rather than spend as much time writing I have been  totally immersed in the process of change.

Monitoring my thoughts has become a priority as well as noticing how my body responds to them.  At the same time I observe the emotions that surface in response to what I am thinking.

When I am aware of stress or discomfort in my body I gently shift my thoughts in a direction that relieves the stress. My body then returns to a relaxed state as a result of my new-found peace.

I express the emotions that surface as soon as possible.  This helps release the trapped energy they represent.  As soon as I feel the energy of that emotion has passed through I imagine a time when I felt total love.  My goal is to spend more time feeling the love than I did expressing the emotion that just passed through.

This process has been especially helpful when I observe the way my body responds to the conversations I have with myself.  When I judge and scold myself my energy drops and I feel tightness in my body.

It requires intense focus on my part to gently redirect my thoughts to words of encouragement, appreciation, and loving care.  After all, I allowed my thoughts to play more in the past and future almost my entire life.  Forming new habits of thought is taking more time and effort than I expected.

The good news is that if we practice something long enough we begin to do it automatically.  It becomes a new habit.

That is what I am noticing for me.  The more I listen to the messages my body sends me the easier it is to quickly and gently redirect my thoughts to noticing the present moment.  I embrace what is happening right this moment.  I find something about the present moment for which I am grateful.

In this precious moment all is good.  I am living in a state of grace.  When I focus totally in this moment I find peace.

Shifting my focus from what is happening in the world around me to what is taking place in universe inside my body is changing me and my life from the inside out.  The result of this moment by moment practice is a complete change in the inner landscape of my presence in physical form.

I am practicing the art of being.  I invite you to join me.  It is an amazing journey and the reward is inner peace.


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Have you ever considered what motivates you to take action in your life?

A friend of mine uses fear.  She takes action from a place of fear.  Fear of what will happen if she does not force herself to do something she thinks she should be doing.

Unwilling to force myself into action from a place of fear I examined my behavior which results in no action at all.  I talk a lot about what I will do but never seem to take the leap into total action.

I discovered I was talking about it and not doing it partly because I had not really made a commitment to love and support myself.  On some level I was still questioning whether it was right, would I do it right, what would happen if…you get the picture.

I was judging myself and my motives and they did not match up to who I really am.

Then I began to ask myself what it would be like if I made the choice to take action from a place of love.

What if I took the action I wanted to take because I knew without question it was the most loving thing I could do for myself.

What if by making that commitment and following through with a consistent shift in behavior I would be proving I loved myself enough to give myself what I truly wanted.

So, I decided  to take action in the direction of what I wanted without being afraid of what might happen.

I decided to stop judging myself.  I began to praise myself for each tiny step I was making in the direction of my dreams.

I decided to begin to show myself how much I value my relationship with myself.

I decided to provide myself with the love, respect and support I always looked for outside myself but discovered lived inside me all the time.

Now I am focusing on the love within instead of trying to find it somewhere outside myself.





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This week I worked with two different people who experienced difficult love relationship issues.  While the equally painful circumstances were unique to each person the responses were quite different.

One person chose to focus on the hurt while the other chose to bless the situation with love and forgiveness.

The angry person relived the experience over and over.  Thoughts of who did what to who kept feeding the anger and turned to deep inner hurt, pain and despair.

Having traveled the path of the angry person more than once in her life the other person knew it would lead her right back into illness and depression.  She was not willing to allow the experience to rob her of her new-found life filled with love, peace and joy.

Determined to find her way back to joy she chose to forgive herself and the other person.  She offered prayers of blessing for the other person.  And, she congratulated herself for seeing the truth and making the choice to love herself no matter what was happening in her life.

As I reflected on the atmosphere of both discussions I was reminded of how simple it is to change our life in a single moment.

We can choose to look at what we label as “bad” and dredge up memories of the past that support our view.  The painful emotions follow and we find ourselves in a state of self-imposed punishment.

Or, we can choose to examine this mess we find ourselves in and look for the “good”.  Focus on the parts of the mess that are better than the last time we created one and love and bless ourselves for having grown.  Then, focus all our thoughts and attention on being grateful for anything and everything we can think of that we love about our life now.

A simple shift in focus can bring us out of the past and future into the love, joy and peace of the present moment.

Is your focus on loving yourself or hurting yourself?  You have the power to choose right now.  What are you choosing?

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“If Jesus were here would you ask him to heal you?” my husband asked after spending three hours trying to help me sort through the thoughts that were causing me such agony.  I wanted desperately to experience faith healing again without the need for eye surgery. The emotional turmoil caused by the inner battle was devastating.  But, that one question stopped the madness and opened the way for me to see the truth.

Not only could I not ask for healing, I could not even look Jesus in the face.  I carried so much guilt over things I thought I had done wrong.  Things, in my mind that could never be forgiven.  I believed I was an awful person who deserved punishment.

That is when I began in sincere earnest to learn how to love and forgive myself.

What do you believe about yourself?

You are perfect love.

If you think thoughts about yourself that do not support that truth and choose to believe them it is time to give them up.

You are the divine expression of pure Love in the world.

Do not accept any thought that would lead you to believe that is not true.

You have the power to choose which thoughts to believe. Begin today to focus on the good thoughts about yourself.

Affirm those good thoughts over and over. One day you will begin to believe them instead of the lies you have told yourself for so long.

That is what has happened for me.  I spent many years telling myself I was not good enough.  I heard those thoughts so often I came to accept them as my truth.

Once I understood what I was doing I made myself a promise that I would do whatever it took to change.  I began to tell myself the truth.  I denied the old lies and affirmed the truth.

Over time my mind began to accept and believe the truth that I am the divine and perfect expression of Love.

You are that same perfect expression of divine Love.  Embrace it and believe it.  It’s true.

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I received a call last night from my sister that my mother was in the hospital diagnosed with congestive heart failure.  The moment I hung up the phone I began to pray prayers of healing.

As I prayed I became aware of the need to forgive my mother.  Unaware of what I needed to forgive my mother for I began to repeat prayers of forgiveness and love.

Cleansing tears flowed as my body heaved from the deep sobs.  I was aware of the cleansing power at work in my heart as I released God only knows what from my heart and soul.

Then I became conscious of the need to forgive myself.  Still unaware of what I was holding against myself or my mother I continued the statements of forgiveness and love for myself and my mother.

Eventually the tears and sobs gave way to a feeling of peace.  I was aware of  how much lighter my body felt after letting go of so much pain.  I could feel the healing warmth of Love filling up the empty places left by what had just been released.

This morning I received word my mother is showing signs of improvement

The experience reminded me of the role forgiveness plays in opening the way to experience true love. To forgive means to give up, drop, or let go.

How many unnecessary hurts and pains from the past do you hold tightly in your heart?

Have you carried them for so long you cannot really remember what happened that caused you to bury them so deeply?

If you do remember what happened, can you not see  you are so full of the pain of the past  you cannot live in the light of truth now?

As long as your heart is full of pain from the past there is no room to receive Love or share Love in this moment which is where you are living your life.

The pain of the past plugs up your heart and your life in such a way Love cannot flow freely.

If you want more Love in your life I invite you to give up everything in your heart and mind that is not loving.

In its place will flow a river of Love and Life like you have never known.

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