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This week I worked with two different people who experienced difficult love relationship issues.  While the equally painful circumstances were unique to each person the responses were quite different.

One person chose to focus on the hurt while the other chose to bless the situation with love and forgiveness.

The angry person relived the experience over and over.  Thoughts of who did what to who kept feeding the anger and turned to deep inner hurt, pain and despair.

Having traveled the path of the angry person more than once in her life the other person knew it would lead her right back into illness and depression.  She was not willing to allow the experience to rob her of her new-found life filled with love, peace and joy.

Determined to find her way back to joy she chose to forgive herself and the other person.  She offered prayers of blessing for the other person.  And, she congratulated herself for seeing the truth and making the choice to love herself no matter what was happening in her life.

As I reflected on the atmosphere of both discussions I was reminded of how simple it is to change our life in a single moment.

We can choose to look at what we label as “bad” and dredge up memories of the past that support our view.  The painful emotions follow and we find ourselves in a state of self-imposed punishment.

Or, we can choose to examine this mess we find ourselves in and look for the “good”.  Focus on the parts of the mess that are better than the last time we created one and love and bless ourselves for having grown.  Then, focus all our thoughts and attention on being grateful for anything and everything we can think of that we love about our life now.

A simple shift in focus can bring us out of the past and future into the love, joy and peace of the present moment.

Is your focus on loving yourself or hurting yourself?  You have the power to choose right now.  What are you choosing?


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“If Jesus were here would you ask him to heal you?” my husband asked after spending three hours trying to help me sort through the thoughts that were causing me such agony.  I wanted desperately to experience faith healing again without the need for eye surgery. The emotional turmoil caused by the inner battle was devastating.  But, that one question stopped the madness and opened the way for me to see the truth.

Not only could I not ask for healing, I could not even look Jesus in the face.  I carried so much guilt over things I thought I had done wrong.  Things, in my mind that could never be forgiven.  I believed I was an awful person who deserved punishment.

That is when I began in sincere earnest to learn how to love and forgive myself.

What do you believe about yourself?

You are perfect love.

If you think thoughts about yourself that do not support that truth and choose to believe them it is time to give them up.

You are the divine expression of pure Love in the world.

Do not accept any thought that would lead you to believe that is not true.

You have the power to choose which thoughts to believe. Begin today to focus on the good thoughts about yourself.

Affirm those good thoughts over and over. One day you will begin to believe them instead of the lies you have told yourself for so long.

That is what has happened for me.  I spent many years telling myself I was not good enough.  I heard those thoughts so often I came to accept them as my truth.

Once I understood what I was doing I made myself a promise that I would do whatever it took to change.  I began to tell myself the truth.  I denied the old lies and affirmed the truth.

Over time my mind began to accept and believe the truth that I am the divine and perfect expression of Love.

You are that same perfect expression of divine Love.  Embrace it and believe it.  It’s true.

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I received a call last night from my sister that my mother was in the hospital diagnosed with congestive heart failure.  The moment I hung up the phone I began to pray prayers of healing.

As I prayed I became aware of the need to forgive my mother.  Unaware of what I needed to forgive my mother for I began to repeat prayers of forgiveness and love.

Cleansing tears flowed as my body heaved from the deep sobs.  I was aware of the cleansing power at work in my heart as I released God only knows what from my heart and soul.

Then I became conscious of the need to forgive myself.  Still unaware of what I was holding against myself or my mother I continued the statements of forgiveness and love for myself and my mother.

Eventually the tears and sobs gave way to a feeling of peace.  I was aware of  how much lighter my body felt after letting go of so much pain.  I could feel the healing warmth of Love filling up the empty places left by what had just been released.

This morning I received word my mother is showing signs of improvement

The experience reminded me of the role forgiveness plays in opening the way to experience true love. To forgive means to give up, drop, or let go.

How many unnecessary hurts and pains from the past do you hold tightly in your heart?

Have you carried them for so long you cannot really remember what happened that caused you to bury them so deeply?

If you do remember what happened, can you not see  you are so full of the pain of the past  you cannot live in the light of truth now?

As long as your heart is full of pain from the past there is no room to receive Love or share Love in this moment which is where you are living your life.

The pain of the past plugs up your heart and your life in such a way Love cannot flow freely.

If you want more Love in your life I invite you to give up everything in your heart and mind that is not loving.

In its place will flow a river of Love and Life like you have never known.

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