Posts Tagged ‘Love’

I had to laugh at myself today.  I actually wanted to return to the peaceful solitude of winter!

This past winter I made great progress staying in the present moment.  Those delicious times of peace and joy felt so wonderful.

Unable to locate work outside my home I focused all my energy on creating art and letting go of all those things inside me that kept me from living a life of peace, love and joy.  I dug deep, learned some new ways of letting go and even shared them with my friends and those who read these posts.

I thought I was ready to face anything and still remain in a state of peace, love and joy.  As usual, my expectations were a little too high.

Now that Spring is here I find myself juggling more part-time jobs than ever in addition to building two businesses.  The madness in my head is keeping me from sleeping and slowing down my ability to deal with the tasks at hand.

They say we teach what we most want to learn.  I feel like I just entered graduate school and forgot everything I ever learned.

So, today I am returning to the basics I have been teaching and applying them to my new situation.

Pay attention to the emotions first.  When I feel uncomfortable instead of allowing my mind to keep thinking thoughts that are causing these unwanted feelings I give it a new job to do.  I ask it to help me identify what I am feeling.

Once I know what I am feeling I sit with it and allow myself plenty of time to feel it intensely.  Emotions are energy passing through and I know if I do not let them out they will make me miserable, my body sick and prevent me from finding that place of love, peace and joy.

When the intensity is gone, which only takes a few moments, I imagine myself offering love and compassion to a child or a pet that is hurt or crying.  I hold those thoughts until I begin to feel the love flowing in and through my body.  That allows me to experience the love my emotions were blocking.

Then I offer prayers of thanksgiving for this experience.  I know its purpose was to help me see a part of myself that needed to be healed in order for me to live the loving, peaceful joyful life I desire.

Next I focus my thoughts on gratitude for everything I can think of in my life now.  I am grateful for the chair I sit in, the desk that holds my computer, the computer, the internet that connects me to you.

Ah, now I am feeling better.

It looks like I have a lot to learn this season.  At least with my new tools I can make it an adventure to discover what else needs to go so I can free myself of past behaviors that no longer serve me.

I will keep you posted on my progress.  Who knows, I might learn something that will help you as well.


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This week I worked with two different people who experienced difficult love relationship issues.  While the equally painful circumstances were unique to each person the responses were quite different.

One person chose to focus on the hurt while the other chose to bless the situation with love and forgiveness.

The angry person relived the experience over and over.  Thoughts of who did what to who kept feeding the anger and turned to deep inner hurt, pain and despair.

Having traveled the path of the angry person more than once in her life the other person knew it would lead her right back into illness and depression.  She was not willing to allow the experience to rob her of her new-found life filled with love, peace and joy.

Determined to find her way back to joy she chose to forgive herself and the other person.  She offered prayers of blessing for the other person.  And, she congratulated herself for seeing the truth and making the choice to love herself no matter what was happening in her life.

As I reflected on the atmosphere of both discussions I was reminded of how simple it is to change our life in a single moment.

We can choose to look at what we label as “bad” and dredge up memories of the past that support our view.  The painful emotions follow and we find ourselves in a state of self-imposed punishment.

Or, we can choose to examine this mess we find ourselves in and look for the “good”.  Focus on the parts of the mess that are better than the last time we created one and love and bless ourselves for having grown.  Then, focus all our thoughts and attention on being grateful for anything and everything we can think of that we love about our life now.

A simple shift in focus can bring us out of the past and future into the love, joy and peace of the present moment.

Is your focus on loving yourself or hurting yourself?  You have the power to choose right now.  What are you choosing?

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For some time now I have practiced ways to keep myself focused in the present moment.  Yesterday I noticed something different and want to share it with you.

I was taking a few deep breaths trying to relax the tightness in my shoulders.   As I felt the shoulders relax I noticed  another part of my body was also tight.

When I finally felt my entire body relax…a thought drifted in and captured my attention.   Immediately my shoulders resumed the same raised and tightened place they were in when I started.

After some time of working and observing it became clear the tightness was the result of fear.  I was afraid of what might happen in the future and that fear was keeping my body in a state of stress and dis-ease.

I turned my thoughts to the things I love and appreciate about myself.  I noticed and gave thanks for the things I am grateful are in my life this very moment.

As quickly as my body had become tense it became relaxed.  I was experiencing joy and peace in the place of fear and worry.

It is no wonder we have so many physical problems.  We rarely experience our natural state of simply being.

Living fully focused in the present moment is where we find our health, peace, joy and abundance.

I plan to check in with my body more often to see how I am doing at keeping my thoughts focused in the present moment.

Are your shoulders tight?

Are your hands clenched?

Are you tapping  your feet?

What is your body doing to get  your attention?

A simple change in focus can change your life right this very moment.

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“If Jesus were here would you ask him to heal you?” my husband asked after spending three hours trying to help me sort through the thoughts that were causing me such agony.  I wanted desperately to experience faith healing again without the need for eye surgery. The emotional turmoil caused by the inner battle was devastating.  But, that one question stopped the madness and opened the way for me to see the truth.

Not only could I not ask for healing, I could not even look Jesus in the face.  I carried so much guilt over things I thought I had done wrong.  Things, in my mind that could never be forgiven.  I believed I was an awful person who deserved punishment.

That is when I began in sincere earnest to learn how to love and forgive myself.

What do you believe about yourself?

You are perfect love.

If you think thoughts about yourself that do not support that truth and choose to believe them it is time to give them up.

You are the divine expression of pure Love in the world.

Do not accept any thought that would lead you to believe that is not true.

You have the power to choose which thoughts to believe. Begin today to focus on the good thoughts about yourself.

Affirm those good thoughts over and over. One day you will begin to believe them instead of the lies you have told yourself for so long.

That is what has happened for me.  I spent many years telling myself I was not good enough.  I heard those thoughts so often I came to accept them as my truth.

Once I understood what I was doing I made myself a promise that I would do whatever it took to change.  I began to tell myself the truth.  I denied the old lies and affirmed the truth.

Over time my mind began to accept and believe the truth that I am the divine and perfect expression of Love.

You are that same perfect expression of divine Love.  Embrace it and believe it.  It’s true.

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I received a call last night from my sister that my mother was in the hospital diagnosed with congestive heart failure.  The moment I hung up the phone I began to pray prayers of healing.

As I prayed I became aware of the need to forgive my mother.  Unaware of what I needed to forgive my mother for I began to repeat prayers of forgiveness and love.

Cleansing tears flowed as my body heaved from the deep sobs.  I was aware of the cleansing power at work in my heart as I released God only knows what from my heart and soul.

Then I became conscious of the need to forgive myself.  Still unaware of what I was holding against myself or my mother I continued the statements of forgiveness and love for myself and my mother.

Eventually the tears and sobs gave way to a feeling of peace.  I was aware of  how much lighter my body felt after letting go of so much pain.  I could feel the healing warmth of Love filling up the empty places left by what had just been released.

This morning I received word my mother is showing signs of improvement

The experience reminded me of the role forgiveness plays in opening the way to experience true love. To forgive means to give up, drop, or let go.

How many unnecessary hurts and pains from the past do you hold tightly in your heart?

Have you carried them for so long you cannot really remember what happened that caused you to bury them so deeply?

If you do remember what happened, can you not see  you are so full of the pain of the past  you cannot live in the light of truth now?

As long as your heart is full of pain from the past there is no room to receive Love or share Love in this moment which is where you are living your life.

The pain of the past plugs up your heart and your life in such a way Love cannot flow freely.

If you want more Love in your life I invite you to give up everything in your heart and mind that is not loving.

In its place will flow a river of Love and Life like you have never known.

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In my last post I shared some things I wrote right after I was diagnosed as legally blind and again two years later. Each time I wrote it sounded as if I had finally made it.  The truth is I made great progress and was better than I had ever been.

Today things are far better than they were in 2004.  And I know that 2010 will be even better than last year.  I know this because I practice looking for, focusing on and talking about the good that is already here in my life.

I spend time daily being grateful for the good things in my life right now.  I give even greater attention to those things I want more of in my life.

What I have learned is if I want love in my life I cannot see the love if I am focused on hate.  I cannot see peace if I am looking at conflict.  I cannot become well if all I talk about is being sick.  I cannot find more money if I am always focused on finding ways to prove how much I do not have.

Instead of looking at how much money I do not have, I look at, appreciate and give thanks for all that I do have.  I talk about how much more I have this time this year than I had last year.

I talk about how wonderful it is to be home, working from home, doing things I love and I spend time being grateful for that.

I set aside time each day to listen to my inner spirit, to pray and to focus on the things I desire like love, peace, joy, health and prosperity.

Did I get here overnight?  No.  I practice.  I practice each day changing my focus from what I do not want in my life toward all that I do want in my life.

I practice looking for the good.  I practice focusing on the good. I practice being grateful for the good.

So, how do you get from where you are to where you want to be?  Practice, practice, and more practice.

Let’s spend time practicing together focusing on the good in our lives and see how much better things get this new year.

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